The One Where I’m “Okay”

Yesterday I had a conversation with a friend who said, “I’m only okay at everything I do. I’m an okay wife, I’m an okay mom, and I’m an okay professional. But I’m not GREAT at anything.” The shocker of this statement is that this woman is one of the most gifted people I’ve ever met in my life. She sings like an angel, takes beautiful photos, has well behaved children, and an utterly devoted husband. She has a passion for God that seemingly radiates from her skin. She is one of those people that is so talented and makes life just look EFFORTLESS, and you kinda want to hate her, but guess what? She’s so genuine and GOOD, you can’t even be really jealous because she has no idea how just awesome she is! But her statement brought me to a harsh reality. We have such pressure to do everything right, beyond the best of our abilities, all the time. We need to have Pinterest Perfect lives, when it comes to how our house is decorated, the food we prepare, the activities we do with our kids, and how unique and gorgeous our clothes, hair and nails are. It’s exhausting, so how can we NOT just settle for “okay” at everything?  The conversation reminded me of an analogy I heard for advertising once. You have a pitcher of water, and four glasses. Each glass represents a different advertising medium (trust me, I’m going somewhere with this), let’s say Radio, Television, Newspaper, and Mailers. So you take the pitcher and pour it into the four cups, and you can only get each one half filled. But if you take the pitcher and completely fill one, then the next, then the next, then the next…. you end up making each cup complete. Of course, I was taught radio was the only cup worth filling, but that’s for a different argument. For now, I realized that analogy can be altered to make me seem more clever. YOU are the pitcher, and and the cups are your different roles in life. One is your spouse (if you have one). One is your children (if you have those). One is your job (again, if…), and the other is serving others (which we are all called to do). Swap those for whatever you focus your time and energy on, and when we focus on one, we can’t fill the other. So we half-ass all of them, or ignore some, or complain about the cup size or whatever.

Here’s where people go “Uhm, you forgot God… You’re the one always saying He comes first…” And so He does. He’s the water in the pitcher. John 4:13 is where Jesus says, “Everyone who drinks of this water will be thirsty again, but whoever drinks of the water that I will give him will never be thirsty again. The water that I will give him will become in him a spring of water welling up to eternal life.”  When we think we aren’t doing enough, God refills us. When we put Him into everything we do, it doesn’t matter if we let our kid watch The Lorax, *ahem*, again, so we could attempt to get frozen pizza in the oven, while sending emails to clients from our phones. Could we all use more hours in the day, unlimited amounts of money for daycares, or private chefs or stylists? Well DUH. But living for Jesus isn’t about life suddenly becoming perfect. It’s about knowing that He doesn’t expect perfection, He knows we try to do the best that we can, and guess what? It’s perfectly “okay” with Him. 

Oh, and that part about serving others? I think I’m going to offer to babysit once a week for this gal so she can put her focus on work without feeling like she’s letting anyone down. And I’ll likely be “okay” at that too.